Growing up we listened to a lot of music at home and on car trips, mostly country, 50’s, and 60’s music. My brothers and I would sing along to the parts that we knew, mom and dad sometimes joining in. My younger brother was the funniest to listen to, though. He would catch on to the very end of the last word in a line and draw it out in his little toddler voice, I just smile and say “ssaaaaay…”, Kiss an angel good morning “niiiiiinnn”, …when you get back home “oooome…” (Charlie Pride’s ‘Kiss An Angel Good Morning’). He would usually close his eyes, squeezing the lids together just slightly, and lift his face a little toward the ceiling as he let loose his voice in accompaniment. A few years later Michael Jackson’s ‘Thriller’ came out and, as you can see in the pictures above, my brother’s musical tastes evolved (mine and my older brother’s did too, but there are no gems in the photo album like these).

Music can be magic to children. Whether it is instrumental, the oldies, or more current music, observe what makes your child move or sing. What kind of music gives your child energy or relaxes them? Find music that has language your child’s school would approve of and play it at different times throughout the day, at a low level. When does your child seem to be most connected to the music? Does your child just seem to be distracted or unhappy? Pay attention to your child’s cues.

Make sure to have several long moments during the day when no music is played. It is important for children (and adults) to experience quiet times when you can hear the clock ticking, birds singing, or wind blowing outside. During these times, if your child indicates they want music, create it yourselves. Sing a favorite song or make music with instruments, homemade instruments are my favorite.

The volume level, whether on the television, radio or other audio equipment, should always be kept at a low level. Hearing loss can inadvertently be caused by playing music too loud for a young child, and head phones should never be used for young children before checking with your pediatrician first. Noise-canceling headphones are a great idea when you are visiting a fireworks display or other events such as a live sport or with a live band.

Over the years I have seen several families in which the child or children enjoy similar music as the parents. This can be a connection that is enjoyed for years. What is your favorite type of music?